I Quit My Job Today

...my people pleasing job! :)

Do you ever catch yourself making decisions based off of other people’s happiness instead of your own?  Do you do things that may hinder your journey just to make others happy?  Do you do things because YOU want to or because someone else wants you to?

I seriously struggle with people pleasing, always have.  I care about how people feel, and I never want to upset anyone because I hate confrontation.  I’ve come to realize that when it comes to getting healthy and in shape, it’s kind of hard to be a people pleaser.  I have some serious goals set for myself and for the person I want to be.  This getting healthy and in shape stuff is not always easy, and if you don’t have a strong motivation to hold on to – it makes it even more difficult.  Everyone has an opinion of what they think you should do or not do, and it’s not always going to line up with your goals.  

The first time around that I decided I wanted to get healthy, I did great!  I made tons of progress and conquered many fears.  Yes it was hard, yes I struggled, yes I wanted to quit...and I did.  Looking back, I realize that maybe the reason I quit was because I was doing it for the wrong reason – for everyone else but me.  I wanted to show people that I could do it and wasn’t crazy, I wanted to prove people wrong, I wanted get other people’s approval.   

Well things are different this time.  I’m doing this for ME now.  No more working as a people pleaser for this girl!!!  Now don’t get me wrong, it would be nice if I could still make people happy – but I’m not letting it hinder me or affect my decisions anymore.  When it comes to getting healthy and in shape, I am either all in or all out.  This time – I am all in.  I’m not doing this to please others or get anyone’s approval, I’m doing this because I want to feel better about myself.  I want to be confident, strong, in shape, healthy, and happy.  

I mean think about it...nobody but you is going to know how hard you worked out, how much you didn't want to go but went anyway, how hard that one last rep was, how hard it was to breathe on just one more lap.  YOU are the only one that is going to know how that feels and YOU are the only one who is going to remember that when you are faced with food obstacles.  Since you are the only one who is going to remember all that, other people may not always understand your decisions...and guess what?  IT'S OKAY!!!

Quitting my job as a people pleaser means that taking care of myself is now a priority, and I'm cool with that!  That means saying NO to foods that I don’t need or want.  That means saying NO to activities sometimes that will keep me from working out or prepping meals.   Most of all, that means saying YES to ME.  You only get one life...why spend it trying to please everyone else?  I choose to take care of me, care about my health, to get in shape, and to be an example that it CAN be done. 

Reach your goals for the only opinion that matters...YOURS!!!